Why Men Hate Going To Church

I just finished reading “Why Men Hate Going to Church.” Murrow’s book was very hopeful, until I finished it. He has put his finger on a real problem — the feminization of Christianity. But the problem is even wider, it includes the feminization of Western Culture.

It is true that biblical Christianity is not feminine, but as Podles has indicated, it was feminized during the Middle Ages — and has not recovered. And the feminizing force would be the Roman Catholic Church by definition.

The theological effort to defeminize the church came in the 1500s and is known as the Reformation. Thus, you will find that genuine Reformation theology is clearly not feminine, and that it continues to be a target of the radical feminists. Whereas, the theological enemy of the Reformation — Arminianism and Pelegianism — have adapted themselves to the feminine mystique, as can be verified in today’s churches by examining a specific church’s policy regarding women and its theological perspective.

It is primarily the PCA, OPC, etc. (and a few theologically confused fundamentalists) who continue to insist upon male leadership of the church. Why this fact has not appeared in Murrow’s book is a mystery to me. As a Presbyterian, he should know this. In contrast, his suggestion is to forget about theology and just get practical. But to forget theology (understanding what the Bible actually says and means) is to drift into faithlessness. Rather, the practical aspects of church life necessarily flow out of its theology, whether that theology is recognized or not. Thus, Murrow’s practicality is right on track with the major traditions of the (Arminian and Pelegian) Church Growth Movement, which I have criticized elsewhere.

The problem is that Murrow suggests shallow solutions to a real problem. The problem is not that men are not attending church. Rather, the problem is that the churches are not functioning according to Scripture. Just getting a bunch of beer-swilling men into church will not solve anything. What is needed is to get those who are not actual Christians out of the church — men and women alike — and to conform the church to its biblical pattern.

The solution is not to grow a bunch of gigantic, fun loving churches to attract Godless men. God doesn’t care about size, he cares about faithfulness. The solution is to prune the dead wood out of the churches to produce new growth, just as hedges and vines are pruned to stimulate their growth.

“For as many as were baptized into Christ, you put on Christ. There cannot be Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is no male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. And if you are Christ’s, then you are Abraham’s seed and heirs according to the promise” (Gal 3:27-29).

Again, the problem is not that there is a lack of men in the church, but that there is a lack of Christians in the church, and that has led to the weakening of the church and the feminization and liberalization of the culture.

Let’s talk about it.

2 comments for “Why Men Hate Going To Church

  1. jj
    December 10, 2007 at 11:02 am

    u have said the truth.true christian faith is neither feminine or masculine but godly making men better men and woman better woman.if church had adhered to new testament teachings of veiling women in churches,not allowing them to teach men in church,allow only modest clothing in church ,church would not have become feminized and impotent.finally church should abolish bishop heirarchy and have one pastor for every church,nobody above that.only if apply these principles in church,we shall be able not only to defeminize the church but make every man on earth a member of the church.thus fulfilling the great comission of jesus-our lord and saviour,before his coming

  2. December 10, 2007 at 11:26 am


    Thanks for your encouragement. But your comment suggests both Christian anarchy and Universalism. How so? All authority is necessarily hierarchical and representative. To do away with hierarchical authority is to do away with authority. In addition, Christianity is relational, including various relations between churches. Just as no man is an island, no church is an island, either. Thus, such an action would lead to Christian anarchy. You may be interested in studying the historic Cambridge Platform, which has to do with inter-church relations.

    You have also suggested that we (someone, but exactly who?) can make all people Christian through an administrative adjustment of church rules or principles. While it is true that we can adjust the rules and/or principles, that will not and cannot make anyone a Christian. What if all people don’t want to become Christians?


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